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Tree Lady

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14. Been many years but I know how you feel

Wed Nov 26, 2025, 04:57 PM

Nov 26

Hubby's ex befriended my kids and bought them things knowing we had little money after paying her, all the while she sent me long letter saying not to get close to her daughter. We have been married 25 yrs now and it's just been last few years my step daughter and I got close, took a lot of years away from moms influence.

I remember when my daughter graduated I couldn't afford any fancy party or dinner just bought her a gift and she had a party and invited all the girls, was always super sweet to them while a raving B to me. My kids to this day still think I was just jealous of her because she had more money.

I will say it did hurt that they didn't believe me when I told them what she did to me. Luckily I haven't seen her since step daughters wedding 10 yrs ago.

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I was worried about Thanksgiving at my daughter's house..... [View all] CTyankee Nov 26 OP

I'm really happy for you. 🙂 Dave Bowman Nov 26 #1

Thanks, Dave. I hope she won't show up anyway. CTyankee Nov 26 #2

Hope you can go and enjoy it. Holidays are so weird...Sometimes I'm glad I never married and have no kids... wcmagumba Nov 26 #3

Hope it goes well for you Innocent Smith Nov 26 #4

T-giving Day is so fraught Alice Kramden Nov 26 #5

I really want to see my daughter and my grandkids. She has no rights to them! Yet she calls them "my grandchildren." CTyankee Nov 26 #7

That sounds like a hard thing to cope with Alice Kramden Nov 26 #10

She sounds awful. My husband's ex was a piece of work. She was unfaithful and let that be known... 3catwoman3 Nov 26 #13

If your daughter invites her, she must have a functional relationship with her stepmother? maxsolomon Nov 26 #6

She went out of her way to "help" my daughter, always kissing up to her. CTyankee Nov 26 #8

Hope that hasn't damaged your relationship with your daughter. maxsolomon Nov 26 #9

I'm sure she does. But I got a "no fault" divorce because I didn't want my kids to suffer. My lawyer at the time wanted CTyankee Nov 26 #12

Been many years but I know how you feel Tree Lady Nov 26 #14

Let's hope for the best! CTyankee Nov 26 #11