I was worried about Thanksgiving at my daughter's house.....
she didn't indicate that my first husband's widow would be there...
Back story: she was his grad student and they began an affair and I got a divorce. But they got married and I eventually got married. Then he died. This was along time ago.
She is not on the list this year. Maybe she's dead. I didn't ask my daughter. One of my grandkids specifically asked if I would come this year and that made me feel good.
Now maybe I can like Thanksgiving again. I haven't for a long time.
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...by leaving out a diary for him to find, extolling the virtues of her lover. She continued to call his parents Mom and Dad after the divorce. My husband never told his parents about the infidelity. His mom was a staunch Catholic and was not happy about the divorce. She never warmed up to me.
For her 3rd marriage, the ex used the diamond from the first marriage to make the engagement ring for that 3rd marriage. 
On one of my husband's dad weekends during that time, it was convenient for the ex for us to pick up the kids at the bridal salon where she was getting her 3rd wedding dress. My husband's daughter was going to be her mom's junior bridesmaid, and wanted to show us the dress she was going to wear. Then, the ex insisted on on showing us her dress, too. Who does that? 
For wedding number 4, they sent us a fancy engraved wedding announcement. 
At least it wasn't an invitation to attend.
She died just over a year ago, and husband number 4 wanted to know if my husband wanted to some to the service. He declined.
I do hope this person in NOT at your daughter's house tomorrow.
