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[LiberalEsto]

21. Yesterday was one of the lousier days

in a fairly lousy couple of weeks. First of all, my dear father-in-law died May 10. As if that's not enough, my husband is in the middle of changing jobs. We're somewhat broke temporarily, and under a lot of stress. His old employer docked him three days pay for driving up to see his dying father in the hospital, They said they didn't have to pay him because he had already given 2 weeks' notice. They might pay for the 3 days he took to attend the viewing and funeral, but I'll believe it if I actually see the paycheck.

Yesterday I got a nasty email from my oldest friend K.'s live-in, who has always been an asshole but seems to be getting dementia. Last year he beat her up badly, a neighbor called the cops, he got arrested, but my friend K. dropped charges and let him move back, against the advice of many friends including me, as well as the police. This past Monday evening K. (who is bipolar) called up sounding drunk, then he interrupted the call with unpleasant tech sound effects. This was while we were packing to drive 200 miles to my father-in-law's funeral. I told them I was getting ready for a funeral, told them to cut the crap, and hung up. He called back 2 or 3 more times with stupid sound effects. I hung up each time; finally my husband answered and roared that he would drive down to Florida and rip out the jerk's esophagus if this didn't stop. Mr. Asshole is 65 and is one of the nastiest people you'd never want to meet.

We went to the viewing and the funeral, very sad, but it went okay and many friends and relatives came. It was exhausting, and we got home Thursday afternoon. We noticed more calls on caller ID from the friend's phone number, so I sent K. an email telling her this was the final straw -- I refused to put up with her boyfriend's crap any more and to not call me again. He has been disrupting her calls to me for years, listening in, interrupting with rude comments, or even disconnecting the calls. It should be pointed out that he's some kind of computer whiz who knows all kinds of tech stuff.

Around 4:30 a.m. we got two hang-up phone calls. Caller ID said "unknown caller". In the morning came the email, calling my husband and myself "sick, stupid people", among other nasty things, for accusing him of making the earlier calls, which he denied. As if I didn't recognize K's phone number over the past decade. I didn't bother replying, but forwarded it to two other close friends of my friend, who have shared my concerns over the years about the asshole's behavior and treatment of K. One replied by email that Mr. Asshole had just hacked into another friend's computer and deleted business and personal files, and the hacking was definitely traced back to this jerk. I am concerned because my husband's computer was hacked last week and has a serious virus. I can't prove it was Mr. Asshole, but wouldn't be surprised if he was behind it. Since this is a person who never gives up, and who I think is losing what little mind he had, I am afraid of more retaliatory attacks.

I will call the police in their town in Florida if anything else happens. I unfriended K. on Facebook and marked their e-mail addresses as junk if they send any more. I am heartsick about my friend, but she chose to live with him.

AND my brother called yesterday to say he's developed diabetes.

AND my older daughter, as I was taking her to the airport to fly back to the west coast, treated me to a long lecture about my faults and bad behavior, to the point that tears ran down my face, but that didn't slow her down.

AND the electric mower is busted, and one of the toilets needs to be replaced, and our one car needs to be serviced, but I can't pay the girls' student loans this month unless I charge groceries and gas on the credit card for the next two weeks.