New to this group, hi, I'm an Adult Child of an Alcoholic.

[dixiegrrrrl]

2. I can hear ya.

I am ACOA, and very lucky to have discovered John Bradshaw and Melody Beattie, who did pioneering work with Co-dependency, which addresses growing up in dysfunctional families.
I had a long term problem in accepting the good stuff in life, always picking choices that involved having to struggle to
and complain about the situation I kept finding myself in, instead of recognizing clues I had plopped myself down into another unhealthy job and relationship situation.
Even when I could recognize the pattern, I could not change it, until I had gotten involved in CoDependency recovery.
(There are lots of Co-De 12 step groups and even short term treatment centers that use very effective methods.)

Evenutally I got to a point where I could make the "good stuff" happen in my life.
Took a good amount of work, which was more than worth it.
The method that worked for me was
Face It
Embrace It
Erase It
Replace It
which might make sense to some who have done the same Co-De recovery work.


Sounds as if you are Facing It, and willing to look more deeply at issues, which is a very good start!