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Denninmi

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3. Well, I could try and joke around and say this doesn't bother me.

Mon Jan 7, 2013, 08:50 PM

Jan 2013

Not your comment, it's fine, I can see humor and honesty in it.

Despite my age and life history, including many years spent not even trying to date, I always felt that I would have been a dramatically better partner and father to a family than my father was.

Due to my personal circumstances, I no longer see fatherhood as ever being an option, either biologically or via alternatives such as adoption or marriage.

Not that it was going to ever happen, but now having it firmly ruled out leaves me feeling pretty empty.

Sorry to be such a downer, but it is what it is.

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How much do you value the ability to father children, or become a father? [View all] Denninmi Jan 2013 OP

Liberated? Scuba Jan 2013 #1

Well, I could try and joke around and say this doesn't bother me. Denninmi Jan 2013 #3

I don't know what your personal circumstances are Gore1FL Jan 2013 #11

My personal circimstances definitely make this an impossibility. Denninmi Jan 2013 #14

Never give up Gore1FL Jan 2013 #16

Thanks for the thought. But realistically, not gonna happen. Denninmi Jan 2013 #17

If I project my pre-children attitudes forward in time to today, probably not much. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #2

The film with Nicholas Cage and Tea Leoni? Denninmi Jan 2013 #4

Film makes me cry like a baby. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #5

I've always felt that nothing else comes before my job as a father Major Nikon Jan 2013 #6

Holding that first child was a paradigm shift. lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #8

For me it's been almost 24 years and I still remember it vividly Major Nikon Jan 2013 #9

23 years in February. I hear you. n/t lumberjack_jeff Jan 2013 #12

For me personally PRETZEL Jan 2013 #15

Yep. Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #18

Don't have children..never wanted them Upton Jan 2013 #7

I married into a family at 33 Gore1FL Jan 2013 #10

Not much. ElboRuum Jan 2013 #13

I always knew I wanted kids. I can only speak for myself, obviously- but for me Warren DeMontague Jan 2013 #19

Yup, that's sad. Denninmi Jan 2013 #20