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DFW

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17. "It's mostly soldiers of color who are impacted by this" Mostly, maybe, but not only
Sat May 24, 2025, 02:44 PM
May 24

I suffer from it as well. I also suffered from my high schools (2 different in 11th, and 12th grades) pressuring me to shave, them being totally indifferent to the fact that if I shaved, my face would turn bright red like a boiled lobster. I bent in 11th grade, stopped bending in 12th grade. There were two guys in my graduating class with beards. One was a libertarian right wing type, so he was tolerated. I was not, and so the pressure, while not quite reaching the level of mobbing or harassment, was relentless. As a partial revenge, at graduation, when we were herded together for the class picture, my brother, one class below me, and at a rival school, who was next to me, tried to scramble over the arrogant jocks to be out of the way when the picture was taken. No one would let by, and I said, "look, the school doesn't care about us anyway, so stay put. I bet they'll never notice." Indeed, they never did. I let word filter up about six months later, but they were so indifferent, me being no Republican president's son, to this day, no one ever figured out who the ringer in the photo was.

My high school social life, never the subject of sitcoms to begin with, dropped to flatlining until I stopped shaving. Indeed, my last year of high school, the school paper ran an article about how the girls' school down the road considered us "Freaks, Jocks, and Zeroes," and then ran a photo of me under the headline (and they wonder why I never send them alumni contributions). It didn't take me long to not give a rat's ass if their alumni were put off about one of their students having a beard (this was 1970, after all) or not. That kind of emotional scar lasts a lifetime, and I never forgot it. I stood in unshaven solidarity with every beard-wearer I ever met since.

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The things the Right find to complain about.... KatyaR May 24 #1
I dunno? These guys must have never heard od "Magic Shave", long know in the Blaci communnity for getting clean shaves.. brush May 24 #3
Magic shave is toxic... Blackbydemand2008 May 24 #6
News to me. Not confrimed you say? I've used if for years with no negative reactions. As have many others. brush May 24 #8
Cancer causing agents don't work that way... druidity33 May 24 #10
insidious indeed Be Leave On May 24 #18
Welcome to DU LetMyPeopleVote May 25 #24
Magic Shave has a very low danger causing cancer ... marble falls May 28 #25
Or FEMA assistance to tornado victims BonnieJW May 24 #13
My nephew, who was white, could only shave two or three times a week because he'd get bumps. greatauntoftriplets May 24 #2
In the 28 years I was in the Army, it was common for black soldiers to have shaving profiles. TomSlick May 24 #4
It's these subtle little changes that undermine JMCKUSICK May 24 #5
I predicted this a while ago jmowreader May 24 #7
If Pete the Gleet could grow a beard Seinan Sensei May 24 #9
Hey Petey is so a manly man! BonnieJW May 24 #15
The ONLY real-world reason I could possible think of to demand that soldiers be clean shaven is... LudwigPastorius May 24 #11
JFC, is there a single aspect of our lives that these hate-filled, niyad May 24 #12
If you want the military to do KKK cleansing of domestic areas with African Americans.... JT45242 May 24 #14
The goal is to destroy the careers of POC, women, LGBT, etc. Irish_Dem May 24 #16
"It's mostly soldiers of color who are impacted by this" Mostly, maybe, but not only DFW May 24 #17
School... RobinA May 28 #29
That last year, 12th grade, was a low point for me, though I learned from it DFW May 28 #30
I have so little body hair I should have been a General. twodogsbarking May 24 #19
I hate shaving as I have sensitive skin of course I also hate having a beard so I'm kinda FUBAR 😆 cstanleytech May 24 #20
So do you perpetually have the BumRushDaShow May 24 #21
No but it gets to the point every few days where I have to shave or scratch my own face off to stop the itching. cstanleytech May 25 #23
WTF Skittles May 24 #22
Matter of time johnnyfins May 28 #26
Um k_buddy762 May 28 #27
"Not everything is a "gotcha" " BumRushDaShow May 28 #28
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