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There was a woman and her husband who lived a few doors down. They would walk up and down the street every day, holding hands. They would wave as they walked by. She was a little thing, thin and under five feet tall. Her husband was Italian, with a huge smile and a robust laugh.
I became close to both of them, but to her especially.
After her husband passed away, she would be out there in the harsh weather, shoveling the snow off her long driveway. I would do my best to hightail it over there after a snowfall, and shovel her driveway before she had a chance to get out there. She was fiercely independent, and she would curse at me out of her window when I was shoveling. And she used the colorful curse words that I won't type here. GO HOME!! I WANT TO DO IT MYSELF!! I would ignore her and keep on shoveling.
In June of 1985, I drove home from a concert that I attended in Pennsylvania. It was very hot. As I turned down my street and drove toward my home, she was running down the street, crying, carrying her limp little dog in her arms. "I DON'T KNOW WHAT'S WRONG WITH HIM"!
I reached over and threw open the passenger door and told her to get in. There was a vet office a mile up the road. We sped to the office, and the dog was treated. Turns out it was just a problem with the heat.
Over the years, we would meet in the street in front of my house and chat. She called me by my nickname. She told me she loved me every time we parted, and I would tell her I loved her.
She would stand in the row of trees across the street, and she would talk to the birds there. I was watching her one time. She was looking up into a tree, and she was talking. She held out her hand, and a bird flew to her and landed on her hand. It was a small bird, maybe like a sparrow. I could see her talking to the bird as it sat on her outstretched hand.
We had two Shelties who were wary of other people. But when she walked by, they would start crying with glee. Whining loudly. She would walk up to the fence, and the dogs could not contain their excitement to see her. They would uncharacteristically whine loudly as she approached the chain link fence, and both of them would simultaneously be jumping on the fence as she approached.
Her voice would get high and playful as she talked to my dogs, and she would weave her fingers through the fence to pet them.
I've never seen anyone with a way with animals like that. Her ways were almost spiritual. The animals knew.
She passed away in her home, at age 103.
I miss her.
MacKasey
(1,480 posts)LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)She would curse out the plow drivers when they drove by her house and plowed her driveway in.
PJMcK
(24,693 posts)Thanks for sharing your story.
Happy New Year, amigo.
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)surfered
(11,285 posts)AllaN01Bear
(28,538 posts)3catwoman3
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That must have been enchanting to watch her interact with the small bird.
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)She was very gentle and loving, but you didn't want to mess with her. She would give you the business if you did.
We were about to get flooded. It was night time, around 1100PM, and the fireman were going up the street, knocking on doors and telling people to evacuate. I wasn't really concerned, because we were higher up on the street, but the firemen were insistent.
I was having a conversation with one of the fireman. He asked me who was living in her house, and I said "She's there alone". He said "we have a lot of houses to get to, can you check in on her"? I said yes.
So I walked to her house, and was pounding on the door. No answer, she was sleeping. So I tried the door and it was unlocked!
I'm thinking "Oh Jesus, I hope I don't give her a heart attack".
I was walking through her house calling her name, until I got to her bedroom and she yells WHO IS IT?
I told her it was me and asked her to come and stay with us, just in case the water gets up that far.
She lifted her head from her pillow and said "Fuck off, I'm not going anywhere".
Niagara
(11,441 posts)This will be my 2026 motto!
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)say it to a cop!
Niagara
(11,441 posts)I'll TRY to behave myself.
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)Listen, I was born on a Thursday.
But it wasn't LAST Thursday!
Put your hands behind your back...you're getting handcuffed!
Joinfortmill
(19,969 posts)BurnDoubt
(1,403 posts)To have shared Lovely Monents.
Priceless!
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)She didn't like the way her hair had thinned out, so she would wear a wig when she went out. She had an old car, it was a Pontiac if memory serves. I used to tell her she looked better without the wig.
She didn't wear glasses except when she drove. I used to smile when I would see her drive by with her glasses and stupid wig on.
JMCKUSICK
(5,002 posts)LoisB
(12,296 posts)You are certainly one of them.
FarPoint
(14,511 posts)They see things we can not...like auras...they can see into the other side...They are here for us...
I think your dogs saw her white lite kindness aura...they know good things.
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)littlemissmartypants
(31,512 posts)usonian
(23,392 posts)He'll be back.
Oh, for a few million more!
fierywoman
(8,503 posts)MiHale
(12,572 posts)Special people are drawn to special people
you are lucky, Lucky.
Silver Gaia
(5,244 posts)Our stories are important, and it is important that we share them. When we share them, they become part of the tapestry we weave that is our shared experiences. This story resonates deeply with me, and I am so glad to know about your friend. She lives on in your memories, and is now a part of our collective memories. Thank you.
onethatcares
(16,961 posts)we need more people like her....................and you.
PittBlue
(4,699 posts)What a beautiful story. How lucky for both of you to be friends and neighbors.
Picaro
(2,328 posts)Thanks for sharing this
What a wonderful story about an almost magical character.
Happy New Year.
HeartsCanHope
(1,522 posts)How lucky you both were to have such a lovely friendship!
Attilatheblond
(8,225 posts)You were blessed to have known such a spirit. She was blessed to have you as a friend who took the time to look after her.
And we are blessed by your reminder that such spirits are among us. May we all take enough time to recognize them.
Fla Dem
(27,409 posts)CousinIT
(12,192 posts)May her memory be a blessing to you.
Deuxcents
(25,410 posts)Brainstormy
(2,524 posts)to a beautiful friendship
Martin68
(26,991 posts)MIButterfly
(1,983 posts)She sounds like a wonderful and feisty lady. We should all be so lucky to know someone like her.
Thank you for posting this, LuckyCharms.
patphil
(8,688 posts)Your story brought tears to my eyes.
Harker
(17,349 posts)please send me a signed review copy.
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)Harker
(17,349 posts)I'm just starting Patti Smith's "Bread of Angels." "M Train" was strangely absorbing, and my wife's eldest son's girlfriend gave me a copy of her newest memoir. She gets me.
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)She's a beautiful soul. Enjoy your read.
Harker
(17,349 posts)I'm sorry I hadn't read her prior, as we would have had much literature to discuss.
Talking music with Lenny was fun and mutually rewarding, I think. I got to thank him for "Nuggets", which is a great assemblage of garage bands from the latter half of the sixties.
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)Harker
(17,349 posts)I was fifty years a Coloradan, and have only been out this way for a few years.
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)you could teach me how to read?
Seriously, I love to read, but I'm either on the internet all of the time, or doing work...and I don't take the time to read actual books.
I used to read a lot...not so much these days.
I should.
Harker
(17,349 posts)I had an uncle who read maybe 250 book a year.
When my mom and I used to visit him and his wife (my mom's sister), he'd say "hi" and disappear until about the time we were ready to leave. He'd have made a wrought iron plant stand, or something elegant of etched glass for us.
The moral of the story is that if you don't talk to people, you can read, and get a lot done.
Harker
(17,349 posts)yellow dahlia
(4,363 posts)yellow dahlia
(4,363 posts)yonder
(10,238 posts)FemDemERA
(685 posts)And what a wonderful neighbor you were to watch out for her all those years.
Thank you for sharing.
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)I would thank you all for your kind comments individually, but I didn't want this thread to get too swollen with my comments.
I don't know why she is on my mind so much lately. I'm trying to figure out when she died...I'm thinking it must have been sometime around 2015.
I was in my twenties when we met. So she must have been in her 70s then when we met, if I did that math right?
There is so much I want to type about her and her husband, but I've probably said enough, and I don't want to reveal more about her...out of respect for her memory.
We had the same birthday. I still have all of the cards she sent. Every year she would.
Do you ever have people just kind of fall into your life, and you don't appreciate the great significance of that until some time later?
wolfie001
(7,038 posts)I felt I knew her by the time I finished reading this essay. Brilliant!
Irish_Dem
(79,504 posts)Some people are earth angels.
It is a privilege to know them.
Faux pas
(16,086 posts)people
(828 posts)Wild blueberry
(8,113 posts)Thank you. May her memory be a blessing.
Hope22
(4,449 posts)Thank you for sharing. My heart is with you. What year was she born? My friend who lived to 103 was born in 1909. Oh the memories!
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)She would be 113 now.
Hope22
(4,449 posts)I have so much respect for people who lived from early 1900s into the 2000s. The changes and discoveries .nothing if not adaptable! 🙏🏼💗
LuckyCharms
(21,567 posts)Dad was 46 when I was born in 1958. mom was born in 1918.
Dad 1912-1970
Mom 1918-2012
Bayard
(28,446 posts)She sounds like my kind of person. You were lucky (!) to have each other.