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Shambala

(253 posts)
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:17 PM 17 hrs ago

Are Christmas cards no longer a thing?

We used to get 40+ Christmas cards a year and this year 16 - about the same as the past few years. I remember my pop getting a zillion cards that he would hang and cover the hutch and adjoining walls. I have about 50 on my Christmas cards list I send to.

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Are Christmas cards no longer a thing? (Original Post) Shambala 17 hrs ago OP
i get one from my cpa... ret5hd 17 hrs ago #1
I got one from Sal's pizza. Shambala 17 hrs ago #2
No longer a thing for most people Sanity Claws 17 hrs ago #3
I get 1 back for every 3 I send Johonny 17 hrs ago #4
Yeah, about the same return ratio for me Shambala 12 hrs ago #21
Price Maninacan 17 hrs ago #5
I've sent cards I got from Estate Sales the last 10 years. maxsolomon 32 min ago #37
The younger families send cards with photos of them and their kids on them, i love them. dem4decades 17 hrs ago #6
Yes I mostly get these types newdeal2 16 hrs ago #13
I have a couple of relatives that send Shambala 12 hrs ago #22
A lot of people I know have stopped sending them completely, or send them only to their highplainsdem 17 hrs ago #7
Mail delivery is not unreliable. maxsolomon 29 min ago #38
Not really. Ocelot II 17 hrs ago #8
It requires hours and hours of work. Few women have the bandwidth Maru Kitteh 17 hrs ago #9
I'm the one who does it in my house. I still believe it's important to my elder relatives. maxsolomon 27 min ago #39
Not so much. Ms. Toad 16 hrs ago #10
fewer every year, and not just people dying Skittles 16 hrs ago #11
I guess it depends - on age, personal tradition, available time, number of friends and/or family NewHendoLib 16 hrs ago #12
I still send them out to family and friends Bayard 15 hrs ago #14
Most that i received this year, were from businesses BlueWaveNeverEnd 14 hrs ago #18
My wife and I send them ITAL 15 hrs ago #15
My 88-year-old mother still sends Christmas cards. LudwigPastorius 14 hrs ago #16
One of my cousins would not only tout the highlights of the past year Shambala 3 hrs ago #25
Yes Rebl2 3 hrs ago #27
I havent mailed a card in years BlueWaveNeverEnd 14 hrs ago #17
I spent about $75 on postage alone. notinkansas 14 hrs ago #19
Heathens. Trump will issue an executive order to restore this sacred tradition dalton99a 13 hrs ago #20
Come to think of it I don't know if we got any this year fujiyamasan 10 hrs ago #23
We haven't been able to coordinate a family photo to use on a card the past few years Shambala 3 hrs ago #24
I think Rebl2 3 hrs ago #26
Only family in other states to whom I'm including a Christmas check. tavernier 3 hrs ago #28
My wife and I have been sending fewer and fewer. Life in the Trumpocene has made us increasingly jaded and cynical. Borogove 2 hrs ago #29
Waste of money and paper in my opinion... FascismIsDeath 2 hrs ago #30
I had some custom ones made this year. gay texan 2 hrs ago #31
My wife and I are experiencing the same thing. patphil 2 hrs ago #32
I quit social media several years ago Shambala 45 min ago #33
We got a ton of them this year bif 44 min ago #34
I stopped sending them six years ago. I don't blame people for dropping me off their list for not reciprocating theirs, chia 39 min ago #35
We just Zelle things Sympthsical 34 min ago #36
I still send them Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin 23 min ago #40

Shambala

(253 posts)
2. I got one from Sal's pizza.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:24 PM
17 hrs ago

I guess I ordered something from him once. I’ll make sure to order another pizza 🍕 from him soon.

Sanity Claws

(22,332 posts)
3. No longer a thing for most people
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:25 PM
17 hrs ago

I haven't sent a card in about 20 years. I get cards only from businesses these days.

Johonny

(25,314 posts)
4. I get 1 back for every 3 I send
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:29 PM
17 hrs ago

Mostly the older generations still do them.

Younger people post everything online.

Shambala

(253 posts)
21. Yeah, about the same return ratio for me
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:48 AM
12 hrs ago

But all in the spirit of spreading holiday cheer.

Maninacan

(210 posts)
5. Price
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:30 PM
17 hrs ago

6$ each . Too expensive. A lot of crude themes. Hallmark seems to have all the business and nothing they make impresses me.

maxsolomon

(38,119 posts)
37. I've sent cards I got from Estate Sales the last 10 years.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:23 PM
32 min ago

I'm out now.

If people send cards at all, they mostly send photo-montage postcards.

dem4decades

(13,618 posts)
6. The younger families send cards with photos of them and their kids on them, i love them.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:35 PM
17 hrs ago

It's so great to see then get older. I hope they never stop.

newdeal2

(4,715 posts)
13. Yes I mostly get these types
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 10:16 PM
16 hrs ago

Basically a postcard with family photos and a message. I never get traditional cards unless it is with a gift or from some local business.

Shambala

(253 posts)
22. I have a couple of relatives that send
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:51 AM
12 hrs ago

long written updates of what occurred over the past year included in their cards with a collage of photos. It’s nice to see.

highplainsdem

(59,765 posts)
7. A lot of people I know have stopped sending them completely, or send them only to their
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:36 PM
17 hrs ago

closest friends and family, and maybe a boss or important coworker.

It's become more expensive, it can be time-consuming getting the right assortment of cards if you know who prefers what (traditional religious, traditional nonreligious, funny, cats at Christmas, kittens at Christmas, puppies at Christmas, etc). Most of us have handwriting that can make deciphering even a short note a challenge. Mail delivery is unreliable.

maxsolomon

(38,119 posts)
38. Mail delivery is not unreliable.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:27 PM
29 min ago

I sent 40 cards this year and had 1 returned.

I sent about 40 packages via Media Mail in 2025 and all of them made it to the addressee without issues, in less time than promised.

Where are you sending things that the USPS is "unreliable"?

Ocelot II

(128,918 posts)
8. Not really.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:42 PM
17 hrs ago

People send e-cards or other electronic greetings. It would be nice to help out USPS but I think a lot of people regard cards as just more wasteful paper. I don't send them, don't get them except from a few businesses. I do remember when my family would get a zillion of them, and my mother spent hours addressing cards to send out.

Maru Kitteh

(31,218 posts)
9. It requires hours and hours of work. Few women have the bandwidth
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 09:48 PM
17 hrs ago

for such an endeavor anymore on top of every damn other thing we are expected to do, all day, every day. I love the idea of Christmas cards. I can’t. These days, I barely feel like a living thing at all, and I doubt that makes for cheerful holiday greetings, and I no longer have the energy to lie.



maxsolomon

(38,119 posts)
39. I'm the one who does it in my house. I still believe it's important to my elder relatives.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:28 PM
27 min ago

It does take a significant effort - I think I spent 3 hours on it.

Ms. Toad

(38,137 posts)
10. Not so much.
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 10:04 PM
16 hrs ago

I haven't sent Christmas cards in years. One of my brothers sends them every year. I typically receive about 4 cards a year.

NewHendoLib

(61,553 posts)
12. I guess it depends - on age, personal tradition, available time, number of friends and/or family
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 10:11 PM
16 hrs ago

Been married 45 years - when we were young, we received and sent dozens and dozens. This year - received none, sent none.

Bayard

(28,435 posts)
14. I still send them out to family and friends
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 11:26 PM
15 hrs ago

This year, I only mailed them out to people who were in other parts of the country. Others I knew I'd be seeing soon, I just put cards in with their gifts.

Still, I only got a few this year. Not even worth hanging up. Pretty sad, compared to yesteryear.

ITAL

(1,253 posts)
15. My wife and I send them
Mon Dec 29, 2025, 11:32 PM
15 hrs ago

I think we do roughly fifty a year (only got about fifteen back). Actually we do personalized cards, plus a general letter where where we sum up our year. I guess we're old school. Almost all the ones we get from other people are from folks in their 60s or older (we're in our 40s).

I guess we're old souls.

LudwigPastorius

(14,101 posts)
16. My 88-year-old mother still sends Christmas cards.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 12:34 AM
14 hrs ago

Last edited Tue Dec 30, 2025, 01:13 AM - Edit history (1)

I never have.


One thing I've noticed over the years is that a lot of people use the annual Christmas card to take a aren't-we-incredible victory lap.

"Little Susie got accepted to Harvard, Billy spent his time this year making boutonnières for the homeless, Bob hand whittled a Jet Ski for summer fun at our exclusive lakefront property, while I completed the Multi-Engine Rating for my pilot's license!"

Shambala

(253 posts)
25. One of my cousins would not only tout the highlights of the past year
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:27 AM
3 hrs ago

In her annual letter but sometimes would include innocent family dirt/drama going on. We always look forward to that card

Rebl2

(17,350 posts)
27. Yes
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:30 AM
3 hrs ago

some do that and usually it’s family members I am not that close to. Really find it kind of boring.

notinkansas

(1,295 posts)
19. I spent about $75 on postage alone.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 12:46 AM
14 hrs ago

I think we will have to reduce the names on that list next year.

dalton99a

(91,899 posts)
20. Heathens. Trump will issue an executive order to restore this sacred tradition
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 01:08 AM
13 hrs ago

"Make Americans Send Christmas Cards Again"







fujiyamasan

(1,168 posts)
23. Come to think of it I don't know if we got any this year
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 04:13 AM
10 hrs ago

But it does require some effort.

You need to first get a photo taken and a card made. You also need a person’s physical addresses, but even if you have that , you likely have their phone number already anyways…

And since you can send photos that way…

I’m not saying it’s the same. It’s always a pleasant and unique feeling to receive a physical greeting from someone (especially if they’re a close friend or family member), but we’re all pressed for time now.

Shambala

(253 posts)
24. We haven't been able to coordinate a family photo to use on a card the past few years
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:18 AM
3 hrs ago

so I just had them choose and send me a few photos from over the past year I could assemble into a collage.

Rebl2

(17,350 posts)
26. I think
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:27 AM
3 hrs ago

the younger generation isn’t interested in sending cards or spending money and stamps. I think older people are becoming the same way. Some cards are pretty expensive and have been for years, and stamp prices going up doesn’t help. I only sent cards to immediate family and a couple friends because I was I’ll.

tavernier

(14,246 posts)
28. Only family in other states to whom I'm including a Christmas check.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 11:42 AM
3 hrs ago

Close by friends and family get actual presents. I mailed four cards this year, 17 days before Christmas. One arrived three days after Christmas, another arrived two days after I mailed it. Go figure.

Borogove

(485 posts)
29. My wife and I have been sending fewer and fewer. Life in the Trumpocene has made us increasingly jaded and cynical.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 12:20 PM
2 hrs ago

FascismIsDeath

(41 posts)
30. Waste of money and paper in my opinion...
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 12:27 PM
2 hrs ago

I don't send cards for anything and I don't want them sent to me. I started trashing them years ago, just more junk on top of all the junk I don't need. If you want to drop me a line for the holiday or whatever, call me or text me.

patphil

(8,688 posts)
32. My wife and I are experiencing the same thing.
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 12:47 PM
2 hrs ago

This year we got about 1/2 the number of cards we used to get...only about 15 or so.
Back in the 50's, my mother would send out a couple hundred cards each year; most of them with short notes in them. She would start working on them in November. She kept a notebook with the names and addresses, and columns for each year. If we received a card, she would check it off. Several years with no card would get you dropped from the book. It was a very social thing.
Now people communicate in different ways. Still by phone, but also by text message, e-mail and social media.
The Christmas card was a way of keeping the connection between people open; to let them know we were thinking of them. Letters did the same for the rest of the year.
Letters have pretty much disappeared now, and Christmas cards are headed down the same track.

I think this was the first year my wife didn't have any desire to send out cards. Some was because of death in the family (3), but also because of the feeling that next year would be even worse than this year.

Shambala

(253 posts)
33. I quit social media several years ago
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:10 PM
45 min ago

(unless DU counts as social media) so I don't get to see family photos people usually post. It's nice to get a family photo Christmas card to see how friends' kids and grandkids are growing.

Speaking of letters, I was thinking last night of to whom and when i last physically wrote out and mailed a letter. I think it was 1983 or 84 I sent my last letter to a friend who had gone off to college. Crazy where the years have gone.

chia

(2,746 posts)
35. I stopped sending them six years ago. I don't blame people for dropping me off their list for not reciprocating theirs,
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:16 PM
39 min ago

so of course the numbers of cards I've gotten has gradually dropped down to about ten or so cards. I'm okay with that. My years of laboring over Christmas cards is over and I'm okay with that too.

I'm not on social media but so many people are, and can keep up with family/friend news and photos all year long so the Christmas card photos and updates seem less necessary. My family and friends and I stay connected through texting, FaceTime and calls, so I don't feel out of the loop at all.

Sympthsical

(10,833 posts)
36. We just Zelle things
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 02:21 PM
34 min ago

I used to mail cards if money was involved, but going to the store to get a card, then UPS store because I have no stamps, then the ATM for cash (because that is not a thing that exists in my world). I have a checkbook . . . somewhere. No idea.

Or, tap on my phone real quick to pay the distant children.

We lead a cashless existence and don't use the mail. I'm straining to recall the last time we've had to mail a bill or anything at all really. It's been a while. Mortgage, taxes, utilities, insurance. It's all online or with a phone app.

Social media has also changed this. My mom used to get dozens of cards with little notes, pictures, etc. Just to update the family you haven't seen in a while.

Now I know exactly what Phyllis is doing, whether I want to or not. Sometimes daily. It's Starbucks, Phyllis! I don't need to see it!

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